You need to find yourself so you can be yourself. So you can make friends that are true to you. So they can truly be there for you and help you become the person you need to. And keep you accountable for being the person they think you are.
You need serotonin. It’s the greatest and more powerful tool you’ll have to navigating the world. You need to be calm so you can observe. So you can be strategic. So you can be intelligent.
People will notice when you have a lot of serotonin. They will listen to what you have to say more when you have it and rely on your guidance more. They will be attracted to it and notice the confidence it allows you to exude. The true confidence - Not ego - that comes from knowing who you are and just being.
They know it makes you dangerous and they treat you as such. They’re more likely to help you and relish in the time you’re able to spend together. More importantly, they’re more likely to give you the things you ask for.
Which is why, of course, you also must ask for the things you need. Because the large majority of the time, you will get it when you do.